What's the Difference?
What’s the difference?
Same-sex adoption is something that a lot of people don’t think about often, but when they do think about the idea they always have their opinions, some of them have positive opinions and negative opinions. And as I sit here and procrastinate, people are fighting for what they believe in a while, I am at home getting distracted with everything in my room, the noises, the silence, something I found that I have been looking for for months, not wanting to finish this essay. I wish that I wouldn’t get so distracted, I wish that I wouldn’t be so bad at math, I wish for a lot of things I don’t have while there are people fighting for their wishes, while I am sitting here writing about wishing, they are fighting! Honestly some of the things that I have heard about this topic upset me in ways that I couldn’t imagine! I have heard people say, “A child should not be raised in that type of environment because they won’t be the same as a child being raised by straight parents.” Now to me I believe that being raised in a same-sex home would be awesome, because they are understanding just like any other parent, the only difference is that they are of the same gender.
I also enjoy listening to both, supporters and people that are against the idea. When the supporters talk about Same-sex marriage or adoption, you can just tell how passionate they are about the topic, they aren't afraid to say the things they say. They talk about how it’s much of a beautiful thing it really is, two loving moms, or two loving dads actually get to have a family and how the children are lucky to be raised in that type of home. To get to be a part of this new era where it isn’t frowned upon. Even just listening to their stories is amazing. Getting to listen to how amazing it is having two moms, or two moms sharing four girls. My best friend Angie has two moms, they are great people, always making sure that their daughters have everything they need or if they’re feeling okay and if they needed help or if there was anything they could do for them. Everytime I go to her house, they are always welcoming, they even consider me one of their own, and that is a different type of love that I have felt.
If people were not so opinionated, than this topic wouldn’t be that much of an issue like it really is. If I could do something to get people to agree on a solution to where everyone is happy and satisfied with the topic, I would put people in groups of two, kind of like speed dating. It would be one that is for the idea and one that is against it and I would have them take turns talking about what they think about the idea and ways that would slow down all the negativity about the topic. I believe that would in a way have people talking about their problems and actually be able to communicate with people with different opinions and try to understand and they would just get along hopefully in the long run.
A big question that I have had for sometime now is, “What is the difference between a straight couple adopting a child and a same-sex couple adopting a child?” Honestly, I want to know what the difference is other than one being an opposite-sex couple and a same-sex couple. To me, all people are the same and deserve the same equality that everyone else does, to take the same opportunities that other people get to have, to have a family that they have always wanted with the person they love, their soulmate. To me same-sex couples deserve so much more respect and acknowledgement than they actually get because they are brave enough to stand for what they want, to fight for what they want, even if they know that there is a very slim chance that something will go their way. They are strong, brave, and deserving!
Something I got from my interviews was that people that are against same-sex adoption was that, “if they want a child they should go through what it is actually like to be pregnant and what those 9 months of pregnancy really means.” The person I interviewed grew up without a father and he said that if he had a father figure growing up than he wouldn’t be as sensitive and that he would have been tougher than he really is now. One of the things that he said to me was, “maybe if I had a father figure than maybe, maybe I would have a different view on your topic,” and that is something I will never forget because maybe that is true, maybe it isn’t but the hope is still there that he pr others would actually support my topic. And that gives me hope for what the future holds for same-sex couples that want to adopt a child or maybe even two!
I believe that if straight couples are allowed to adopt children and it not be such a negative thing, than same-sex couples should be allowed to adopt. What’s the difference between the two? Nothing really, they just want to be loving parents that want to give a child their world and they want them to have a great, hopeful, equal life. People talk so much about equality and how there isn’t much of it, but if you really think about how much someone actually says that there should be more equality but they don’t do anything about it, do they really think that there should be equality about anything and everything? I don’t think that people are really fighting that hard for equality because of conflict like this. It is honestly such a delicate topic for some people, maybe because they support it or maybe they were raised by two moms or two dads and they want people to realize that they aren’t screwed up like people think they are, that their moms or dads are loving people that give them the world or the universe. Everyone's the same. So, can you answer my question? What’s the difference?
Same-sex adoption is something that a lot of people don’t think about often, but when they do think about the idea they always have their opinions, some of them have positive opinions and negative opinions. And as I sit here and procrastinate, people are fighting for what they believe in a while, I am at home getting distracted with everything in my room, the noises, the silence, something I found that I have been looking for for months, not wanting to finish this essay. I wish that I wouldn’t get so distracted, I wish that I wouldn’t be so bad at math, I wish for a lot of things I don’t have while there are people fighting for their wishes, while I am sitting here writing about wishing, they are fighting! Honestly some of the things that I have heard about this topic upset me in ways that I couldn’t imagine! I have heard people say, “A child should not be raised in that type of environment because they won’t be the same as a child being raised by straight parents.” Now to me I believe that being raised in a same-sex home would be awesome, because they are understanding just like any other parent, the only difference is that they are of the same gender.
I also enjoy listening to both, supporters and people that are against the idea. When the supporters talk about Same-sex marriage or adoption, you can just tell how passionate they are about the topic, they aren't afraid to say the things they say. They talk about how it’s much of a beautiful thing it really is, two loving moms, or two loving dads actually get to have a family and how the children are lucky to be raised in that type of home. To get to be a part of this new era where it isn’t frowned upon. Even just listening to their stories is amazing. Getting to listen to how amazing it is having two moms, or two moms sharing four girls. My best friend Angie has two moms, they are great people, always making sure that their daughters have everything they need or if they’re feeling okay and if they needed help or if there was anything they could do for them. Everytime I go to her house, they are always welcoming, they even consider me one of their own, and that is a different type of love that I have felt.
If people were not so opinionated, than this topic wouldn’t be that much of an issue like it really is. If I could do something to get people to agree on a solution to where everyone is happy and satisfied with the topic, I would put people in groups of two, kind of like speed dating. It would be one that is for the idea and one that is against it and I would have them take turns talking about what they think about the idea and ways that would slow down all the negativity about the topic. I believe that would in a way have people talking about their problems and actually be able to communicate with people with different opinions and try to understand and they would just get along hopefully in the long run.
A big question that I have had for sometime now is, “What is the difference between a straight couple adopting a child and a same-sex couple adopting a child?” Honestly, I want to know what the difference is other than one being an opposite-sex couple and a same-sex couple. To me, all people are the same and deserve the same equality that everyone else does, to take the same opportunities that other people get to have, to have a family that they have always wanted with the person they love, their soulmate. To me same-sex couples deserve so much more respect and acknowledgement than they actually get because they are brave enough to stand for what they want, to fight for what they want, even if they know that there is a very slim chance that something will go their way. They are strong, brave, and deserving!
Something I got from my interviews was that people that are against same-sex adoption was that, “if they want a child they should go through what it is actually like to be pregnant and what those 9 months of pregnancy really means.” The person I interviewed grew up without a father and he said that if he had a father figure growing up than he wouldn’t be as sensitive and that he would have been tougher than he really is now. One of the things that he said to me was, “maybe if I had a father figure than maybe, maybe I would have a different view on your topic,” and that is something I will never forget because maybe that is true, maybe it isn’t but the hope is still there that he pr others would actually support my topic. And that gives me hope for what the future holds for same-sex couples that want to adopt a child or maybe even two!
I believe that if straight couples are allowed to adopt children and it not be such a negative thing, than same-sex couples should be allowed to adopt. What’s the difference between the two? Nothing really, they just want to be loving parents that want to give a child their world and they want them to have a great, hopeful, equal life. People talk so much about equality and how there isn’t much of it, but if you really think about how much someone actually says that there should be more equality but they don’t do anything about it, do they really think that there should be equality about anything and everything? I don’t think that people are really fighting that hard for equality because of conflict like this. It is honestly such a delicate topic for some people, maybe because they support it or maybe they were raised by two moms or two dads and they want people to realize that they aren’t screwed up like people think they are, that their moms or dads are loving people that give them the world or the universe. Everyone's the same. So, can you answer my question? What’s the difference?
Reflection
My project was about same-sex adoption which is something that isn't talked about much, but when the topic is brought up, there are always the people who think, "why would you let a child grow up in an environment like that?" I chose this topic because I knew it was something I could dig deep into and because it's something people would question at exhibition. My experience at exhibition at exhibition was really interesting honestly. People would come and ask me about my project and why I chose the topic I did, I explained to them that it's something that wasn't really talked about and I wanted to let people know that it is something that can become to grow as a problem and how I thought that there was something we could do before it gets bad.
My opinion on this topic is pretty strong and has not changed since I first started on this project, even with all my research. At first I thought that maybe I would look at it differently because I am the type of person to listen and try to understand both sides of the topic, but then I realized that the more and more research I did it just made my opinion on same-sex adoption stronger, I noticed that there was more information about it then I originally thought at first, there was more than I thought I was in for. After realizing that my opinion wasn't going to change I just tried to build a stronger case to try and get people to understand that same-sex couples weren't these people that were going to traumatize a child or abuse a child in any type of way, yes, maybe some people can become abusive but so are other people, same-sex couples are human beings, just like everyone else in the world. You don't heat a lot about a gay or lesbian person abusing someone or trying to hurt a person in anyway. Something that really bothered me throughout the project was how people always said, "there needs to be less children in foster care!" Anyone can adopt a child without the criticism, but when same-sex couples do it it's always, "they're going to traumatize that child," or "a child shouldn't grow up in that type of environment," all in all, they just get all these negative comments about adopting a child, a child that they want to give a the love in the world to, a child they want to be happy and to be supported no matter what. It just becomes a bunch of criticism and to me it is upsetting seeing people trying to make the world more peaceful and more equal but they just get torn down.
My opinion on this topic is pretty strong and has not changed since I first started on this project, even with all my research. At first I thought that maybe I would look at it differently because I am the type of person to listen and try to understand both sides of the topic, but then I realized that the more and more research I did it just made my opinion on same-sex adoption stronger, I noticed that there was more information about it then I originally thought at first, there was more than I thought I was in for. After realizing that my opinion wasn't going to change I just tried to build a stronger case to try and get people to understand that same-sex couples weren't these people that were going to traumatize a child or abuse a child in any type of way, yes, maybe some people can become abusive but so are other people, same-sex couples are human beings, just like everyone else in the world. You don't heat a lot about a gay or lesbian person abusing someone or trying to hurt a person in anyway. Something that really bothered me throughout the project was how people always said, "there needs to be less children in foster care!" Anyone can adopt a child without the criticism, but when same-sex couples do it it's always, "they're going to traumatize that child," or "a child shouldn't grow up in that type of environment," all in all, they just get all these negative comments about adopting a child, a child that they want to give a the love in the world to, a child they want to be happy and to be supported no matter what. It just becomes a bunch of criticism and to me it is upsetting seeing people trying to make the world more peaceful and more equal but they just get torn down.
Personal Connection Essay
I have always been angered with how cruel people are about gay/lesbian couples wanting to adopt a baby. They want to be loving and caring parents, just like every straight couple. People that are against people that like the same gender, claim that gay/lesbian couples are going to screw the kid up, when in reality anyone can screw a kid up. I’m sure your parents did something that screwed you up. My parents weren’t the best as I was growing up, they were on drugs and yes they did everything for me, but they also spent their time in their room or sleeping after they came off of their high. I had my aunt to grow up with, she is like my sister, she has been there for me since I can remember, I look up to her more than I look up to my parents. My mom didn’t make it through her freshman year because she got pregnant and \bv dropped out, my real dad was barely in the picture, and my step dad who is my dad, didn’t finish his junior year. Anyone can have a messed up childhood or parents that don’t have much to give to their children but at least they try to make it work like my parents did. So what’s the difference?
I have a gay uncle and a lesbian aunt, neither of them want children, but that does not make them bad people, it makes them smart because they know that they can’t financially take care of a child but they also know that they can’t have a child knowing that they never wanted them in the first place. I agree with how they think because they have all their nieces and nephews and they have seen their siblings have children and they don’t know how they can juggle everything and keep a happy family, no, we’re not always happy and of course there is always family conflict, but we will forever love each other.
My best friend has two moms, she has a dad in her life but doesn’t live with him. Her moms are great, I even call them mom. They do everything they possibly can: they make sure all three of their girls have food, a roof over their heads, bathrooms to do what they need to. I have to say, they have had just about the same childhood I had, not gonna lie. They were on drugs just as well as my parents did, my best friend does have anxiety and depression, but I do as well. Her and her siblings are almost exactly like me and mine, I find it quite soothing though. I never thought I would ever get along with someone who had a childhood like I did, but turns out, I love my best friend because she understands, she isn’t screwed up because of having two moms, to me I believe that she has done better since her mom got married to another woman because she is thriving for her life to be better and more successful than her mom has ever been.
I read an article about how adopted children thrive in same sex homes. The study the parents assessed their own parenting style as well as how happy and satisfied they are in their relationships. Teachers and day-care providers were asked to complete the Caregiver-Teacher Report Form, which evaluates a child’s physical/mental including, complaints, anxiety, depression and withdrawn behaviors. By looking at the parents’ self-reports as well as reports of others, researchers found that the children of gays and lesbians were virtually identical from children of straight parents. While I read the article it really backed up what I am I trying to tell people about. I want to let people know that adopted children that are in a same sex household have almost the same expirences as adopted children in a straight household.
In my opinion, if a gay/lesbian couple want to adopt a child, I believe they should be able to, because they want to have a child, to love and care for because they know that’s what they want and they are determined to love that child, to care for that child. Honestly, if I were put up for adoption like I was supposed to be, I would want to be adopted by a gay/lesbian because they are awesome and give unconditional love because they are always put down by people who are against them and their choices which give them the heart to love and care for another person. They are the sweetest type of people in the world, they want things to change, they want good things in life, they just want a normal life, even if that does or doesn’t include having children. They only have the best of intentions, they want a child that doesn’t have anyone to love and support them, they want to give those children what they never had.
I have a gay uncle and a lesbian aunt, neither of them want children, but that does not make them bad people, it makes them smart because they know that they can’t financially take care of a child but they also know that they can’t have a child knowing that they never wanted them in the first place. I agree with how they think because they have all their nieces and nephews and they have seen their siblings have children and they don’t know how they can juggle everything and keep a happy family, no, we’re not always happy and of course there is always family conflict, but we will forever love each other.
My best friend has two moms, she has a dad in her life but doesn’t live with him. Her moms are great, I even call them mom. They do everything they possibly can: they make sure all three of their girls have food, a roof over their heads, bathrooms to do what they need to. I have to say, they have had just about the same childhood I had, not gonna lie. They were on drugs just as well as my parents did, my best friend does have anxiety and depression, but I do as well. Her and her siblings are almost exactly like me and mine, I find it quite soothing though. I never thought I would ever get along with someone who had a childhood like I did, but turns out, I love my best friend because she understands, she isn’t screwed up because of having two moms, to me I believe that she has done better since her mom got married to another woman because she is thriving for her life to be better and more successful than her mom has ever been.
I read an article about how adopted children thrive in same sex homes. The study the parents assessed their own parenting style as well as how happy and satisfied they are in their relationships. Teachers and day-care providers were asked to complete the Caregiver-Teacher Report Form, which evaluates a child’s physical/mental including, complaints, anxiety, depression and withdrawn behaviors. By looking at the parents’ self-reports as well as reports of others, researchers found that the children of gays and lesbians were virtually identical from children of straight parents. While I read the article it really backed up what I am I trying to tell people about. I want to let people know that adopted children that are in a same sex household have almost the same expirences as adopted children in a straight household.
In my opinion, if a gay/lesbian couple want to adopt a child, I believe they should be able to, because they want to have a child, to love and care for because they know that’s what they want and they are determined to love that child, to care for that child. Honestly, if I were put up for adoption like I was supposed to be, I would want to be adopted by a gay/lesbian because they are awesome and give unconditional love because they are always put down by people who are against them and their choices which give them the heart to love and care for another person. They are the sweetest type of people in the world, they want things to change, they want good things in life, they just want a normal life, even if that does or doesn’t include having children. They only have the best of intentions, they want a child that doesn’t have anyone to love and support them, they want to give those children what they never had.
Eating is an Agricultural Act?
This project was both fun and interesting. For this project I wrote an essay about the fast food industries because I work at a fast food restaurant, Sonic, from the time I have been working there and working on this project, I have always wondered to myself, "why do people like eating our food or any fast food? All it is is mainly corn," and then I remember that a lot of people don't know what is the product they are consuming and in my opinion, I believe that they should know what they are eating, because it could change the way the eat or how much fast food they eat, maybe the regulars will start coming only once a week instead of the three or four times they usually do. Some of the things I learned throughout, is how our food animals are treated and fed, and how a lot of the things we consume has a form of corn in it. Our food animals are fed mainly corn filled with probiotics that help the animals get bigger faster, sometimes our cows eat cow scraps and that is just cruel.
The interdisciplinary nature of this project has impacted my learning not in a bad way but not in a great way either, learning so much information on a subject you thought you knew everything about is eye opening. It truly changed the way I see food and drinks, I learned how to look at learning in different ways and I haven't been able to do that since kindergarten, and it is truly amazing to know that you can always learn so much more than you already knew about something you could know so much about already, and that is something that a lot of people can't see. I really want people to realize that there is always a mystery ingredient in a product they are consuming, and that ingredient is usually a form of corn.
My main takeaways from studying food academically is how many people do not know about how the products we are consuming aren't only over processed they are mainly made of corn, and I think that with people not knowing what they're truly consuming prevents people who are obese from changing what they are consuming, and not only does not knowing not help the obesity crisis it the fact that organic food are so expensive and a lot of people can't afford it and that's why they eat so much fast food, because they can't afford anything else so not only do the prices of fast food meals go down, the weight of Americans go way up when it isn't necessary. My thought about food before this project, was that it was only over processed which is why it was so cheap, but after this project I learned that fast food meals are so cheap because the feed that are given to our animals is corn because it is cheaper to feed them corn than to give them healthier food, farmers aren't paid as much as they should because of the cheap feed they pay for the government doesn't see that they should get paid what they have earned instead of being paid for how much they have paid.
My Food Ethic Essay -
Americans tend to not know what they are consuming nor do they want to know because they either don’t care, or they don’t want to ruin the way they see/eat their meals. In all honesty, I never knew what it was I was consuming and I didn’t want to know either, but after learning so much about it, I’m glad I know what it is I am consuming now.
In my opinion some of the only good things about fast food restaurants is that it provides employment for people that need it, like me, I work at Sonic and while I think that people need to stay home so the the pandemic can slow down at least a little bit, it allows me to work towards my goals in life, like paying for college, my own car, my own apartment, etc. Fast food helps homeless people in need of a cheap meal so they don’t starve, it helps the people that don’t have the money to make a homemade meal, but it is causing so much obesity in children causing them to get type 2 diabetes which was known as adult-onset diabetes before children started to get it.
Fast food is acceptable but I feel like they should change a few things like not allowing large meals that cause obesity, I feel like there should only be small, but mediums are okay. A lot of the large meals that are purchased are wasted because they are too big for people to finish them, and that is another reason I think fast food restaurants should downsize meals, because not only are they causing a huge obesity crisis, they are causing a lot of waste that is really not necessary.
Why should Americans go organic with their meals? Americans should start eating more organically because it could help not only the obesity crisis but it would actually help the way our animals are being treated and fed. A lot of people don’t know about how our animals are fed. They are usually fed corn, a lot of the things we consume have a form of corn, it is in our beef, pork, chicken, even soda pop, it’s in things you wouldn’t think it would be in, I was so shocked when I learned about it. Cows are often fed modified feed, filled with probiotics and sometimes even cow scraps, and that is just awful. Now that I know that almost everything people consume has some type of corn, I think about that every single time I eat.
My main question about this whole subject is, “Why doesn’t anyone make a change to their eating style?” if people were to change what they eat and start eating more organic food, the obesity crisis would go down plus we would know what we are eating. I think that knowing what we are consuming is healthy and savory would be great for Americans, it would make us healthier and we would be able to live longer which would, in my opinion, be great for our country.
The interdisciplinary nature of this project has impacted my learning not in a bad way but not in a great way either, learning so much information on a subject you thought you knew everything about is eye opening. It truly changed the way I see food and drinks, I learned how to look at learning in different ways and I haven't been able to do that since kindergarten, and it is truly amazing to know that you can always learn so much more than you already knew about something you could know so much about already, and that is something that a lot of people can't see. I really want people to realize that there is always a mystery ingredient in a product they are consuming, and that ingredient is usually a form of corn.
My main takeaways from studying food academically is how many people do not know about how the products we are consuming aren't only over processed they are mainly made of corn, and I think that with people not knowing what they're truly consuming prevents people who are obese from changing what they are consuming, and not only does not knowing not help the obesity crisis it the fact that organic food are so expensive and a lot of people can't afford it and that's why they eat so much fast food, because they can't afford anything else so not only do the prices of fast food meals go down, the weight of Americans go way up when it isn't necessary. My thought about food before this project, was that it was only over processed which is why it was so cheap, but after this project I learned that fast food meals are so cheap because the feed that are given to our animals is corn because it is cheaper to feed them corn than to give them healthier food, farmers aren't paid as much as they should because of the cheap feed they pay for the government doesn't see that they should get paid what they have earned instead of being paid for how much they have paid.
My Food Ethic Essay -
Americans tend to not know what they are consuming nor do they want to know because they either don’t care, or they don’t want to ruin the way they see/eat their meals. In all honesty, I never knew what it was I was consuming and I didn’t want to know either, but after learning so much about it, I’m glad I know what it is I am consuming now.
In my opinion some of the only good things about fast food restaurants is that it provides employment for people that need it, like me, I work at Sonic and while I think that people need to stay home so the the pandemic can slow down at least a little bit, it allows me to work towards my goals in life, like paying for college, my own car, my own apartment, etc. Fast food helps homeless people in need of a cheap meal so they don’t starve, it helps the people that don’t have the money to make a homemade meal, but it is causing so much obesity in children causing them to get type 2 diabetes which was known as adult-onset diabetes before children started to get it.
Fast food is acceptable but I feel like they should change a few things like not allowing large meals that cause obesity, I feel like there should only be small, but mediums are okay. A lot of the large meals that are purchased are wasted because they are too big for people to finish them, and that is another reason I think fast food restaurants should downsize meals, because not only are they causing a huge obesity crisis, they are causing a lot of waste that is really not necessary.
Why should Americans go organic with their meals? Americans should start eating more organically because it could help not only the obesity crisis but it would actually help the way our animals are being treated and fed. A lot of people don’t know about how our animals are fed. They are usually fed corn, a lot of the things we consume have a form of corn, it is in our beef, pork, chicken, even soda pop, it’s in things you wouldn’t think it would be in, I was so shocked when I learned about it. Cows are often fed modified feed, filled with probiotics and sometimes even cow scraps, and that is just awful. Now that I know that almost everything people consume has some type of corn, I think about that every single time I eat.
My main question about this whole subject is, “Why doesn’t anyone make a change to their eating style?” if people were to change what they eat and start eating more organic food, the obesity crisis would go down plus we would know what we are eating. I think that knowing what we are consuming is healthy and savory would be great for Americans, it would make us healthier and we would be able to live longer which would, in my opinion, be great for our country.